| One of my biggest mistakes as a newcomer was to | | | | Effect, where the tapping on some of a series of |
| waste good time trying to find the exact emotion to | | | | memories collapses the whole series; a bit like a |
| tap on instead of just tapping on whatever is there. I | | | | cascade of dominoes. |
| was a trained hypnotherapy, Reiki, and massage | | | | If going straight to an event still feels like too much, |
| practitioner, with very good client intake form skills, and | | | | then chances are that you are not ready to go to it |
| I would within the first 5-10 minutes of meeting the | | | | yet. In that case, how you are feeling right now is a |
| client have all we needed already written down. But I | | | | great tapping subject. In which case, you can simply |
| still searched for exact emotion, probing unnecessarily | | | | tap on "Even though I have this negative feeling, I |
| throughout the session, annoying the client, breaking the | | | | deeply... " or if the feeling is easy to identify, then just |
| flow, and slowing progress. | | | | tap for it. For example "Even though I'm disappointed,..." |
| This is especially so with painful events, where one | | | | or whatever comes to you. If you can go straight to a |
| would just want to clear them as swiftly and easily as | | | | smaller event, that would also be a great help. |
| possible. This is why often newcomers are too | | | | Examples of small events include: |
| intimidated to tap for a big issue on their own, as | | | | - A time when you said Hello to a friend whilst out |
| dwelling on all those emotions is just too overwhelming. | | | | shopping and the did not recognize you; |
| And of course, when we are looking into an issue and | | | | - When you tried to catch the bus or train recently and |
| thinking deeply about what emotions are involved, that | | | | you missed it; |
| is pretty much dwelling on it; and unnecessarily so. | | | | - When your car broke down in the rain; |
| Let us take fear of public speaking. You may be | | | | - When you were short-changed in a shop; |
| pleased to find that there is no need for example, to | | | | - When a driver on the road was rude or |
| get all worked up whether the emotion is shame or | | | | inconsiderate; |
| fear of rejection when all that is needed to tap on an | | | | - When you bought a pair of shoes you liked only to |
| event. In other words, find an event where there was | | | | find they were uncomfortable. Another great way to |
| a fear of public speaking, see what you can call it,then | | | | tap and usually without too much emotional charge is |
| just tap for the event. Let us say this is "When | | | | to tap on any current physical symptoms. When we |
| everyone looked at me in yesterday's meeting". So | | | | tap on these, we also indirectly tap for underlying |
| we can simply call the event "When everyone looked | | | | emotions. And since this is indirect, it is usually much |
| at me in yesterday's meeting" and not dwell on it any | | | | gentler than tapping on a bad memory. For words, it is |
| further but simply start tapping. | | | | easy. Simply say for example "Even though I have this |
| So we can use the following statements. | | | | pain in my back on the right, I deeply..." etc. You may |
| Setup | | | | find that current pain or discomfort will shift position as |
| "Even though I have this feeling about when everyone | | | | you chase it out of your body. Rest assured that this |
| looked at me in yesterday's meeting, I deeply love and | | | | is normal; you can keep tapping till it recedes or is gone |
| accept myself." | | | | for now. Examples of physical tappings in the here and |
| Reminder | | | | now include: |
| "When everyone looked at me in yesterday's | | | | - Back pain; |
| meeting." | | | | - Shoulder stiffness; |
| All we need to do is to keep repeating this tapping till | | | | - Headache; |
| any intensity of emotion about when everyone looked | | | | - Blocked nostril or blocked nose |
| at us in yesterday's meeting has been neutralized. | | | | - An itch in a particular place (be specific where it is). I |
| Then we can find another such incident, then another, | | | | hope this has given you ideas of what to tap on and |
| neutralizing them all. Once we have neutralized several | | | | what to say. Try and see what works for you and |
| events, they all seem to collapse, so you can rest | | | | what feels right. Wishing you well on your healing |
| assured that you do not have to spend the rest of our | | | | journey; may you find peace, calm and success. |
| life collapsing them. This is called the Generalization | | | | |